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Do you ever feel like teaching is taking over your life? Are you overwhelmed and stressed? Do you feel guilty for neglecting your family while at school then feel guilty for neglecting school while at home?
What you desperately need is some balance in your life.
Chances are, you’re believing some lies – lies that get into your heads & prevent you from finding the balance you need.
We need to reject these lies & replace them with the truths that will free us to start making real changes in our lives.
Lies Teachers Believe About Work/Life Balance
1. Lie: Teachers are always working on school stuff at home. It’s just how it is.
Truth: Lots of teachers have learned how to get everything done without letting it take over their lives. You can too.
While you might need to take some work home, you shouldn’t be constantly working on it, and it certainly shouldn’t be taking over your life. Teachers just like you have learned how to get all their grading and lesson plans done in a reasonable amount of time, leaving time for your home, family, and personal growth. There are solutions, and we’re going to be talking about them throughout this series.
2. Lie: If I work fewer hours, I won’t be as effective.
Truth: If you learn to be more efficient, you can actually be more effective in less time.
Finding balance is not about just letting our work go undone. It’s about finding ways to be more efficient and intentional with the time you have so that you can get all your important tasks done in a reasonable amount of time.
Explore further: Can I Be a Good Teacher Without Working Crazy Hours?
3. Lie: I can keep jam-packing every minute of my day.
Truth: You desperately need margin in your life.
If you’re constantly going from the moment you get up to the moment your head hits the pillow, this is going to take a toll on you in the long run. Yes, there are jam-packed days here and there, and even crazy weeks from time to time. But if this is the norm in your life, there are going to be some long-term consequences. You need margin – space – in your life. Space to think, space to pray, space to enjoy your family.
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4. Lie: The only way I’ll find some balance is if my school changes its crazy expectations.
Truth: You (and only you) can create balance in your life.
Your school may have you teaching more classes, filling out more paperwork, or overseeing more extra-curricular activities that you’d prefer. But the truth is that it’s up to you to find balance in your life, regardless of your situation. And even if your situation is less than ideal, you can certainly move in the right direction. So don’t let this be an excuse.
5. Lie: There’s nothing I can do. I just can’t work any faster.
Truth: Forget faster. You must be more intentional, focused & efficient.
If you’re trying to work faster, you’re missing the point. It’s not about magically becoming faster. It’s about learning to focus, to be intentional about where you spend your time, and to be efficient when you are working. We’ll be diving deeper into exactly how to do this later in this series.
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6. Lie: Next year will be better.
Truth: Next year will present new challenges that vie for your time. Next year will be better only if you make changes.
If you’re a first year teacher, then we can say that next year will be better. And it’s true that the first year teaching new curriculum is always tough. But the danger is in just assuming that next year will be better & not making the changes that are necessary to really find balance. Things may be easier in some ways next year, but there will most likely be new challenges & new responsibilities that will vie for your time. So don’t just count on next year being better – make the changes & ensure that it will be.
Explore further: 6 Resolutions to Reclaim Your Time & Finally Find Balance
7. Lie: I can do it all.
Truth: When you say yes to one thing, you say no to another.
This is true in all aspects of life. When we say yes to one thing (coaching basketball, staying late to grade papers, chaperoning a trip, volunteering, etc.), we are, by default, saying no to something else. And we may or may not realize what we’re saying no to. It’s literally impossible to say yes to everything because if you’re saying yes to everything you’re unintentionally saying no to other things – things that might be really important like focusing on your marriage or relaxing with your kids. This doesn’t mean we should start saying no to every opportunity, but it does mean that we need to be intentional with our decisions & realize what we’re saying no to when we say yes to something else.
8. Lie: Once I achieve balance, I’m golden.
Truth: Balance always requires work & constant adjustment.
Once we start pursuing balance, this lie can creep in & make us feel frustrated or even guilty that we haven’t arrived yet. But the truth is that balance is not something we achieve & are done with. Instead, it’s something we’re always working on. It requires constant adjustments whenever one area of our life starts to get out of whack. So don’t let that bother you. Embrace the imbalance that is inherently part of finding balance.
Ready to Finally Find Balance?
If you’re ready to reject the lies & do whatever it takes to finally find balance, then you absolutely need to check out Reclaim Your Time 101. In just a few short weeks you’ll cut 5-10 hours off your workweek, dramatically reduce your stress, & unbury yourself from overwhelm!
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I so agree with all of these, and truly appreciate your stating them so succinctly. The truth of #7 is truly pivotal and life-changing once grasped.
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I’m pretty sure the person that wrote this is not teaching in the UK right now, 2016! Lovely ideas but unfortunately not a reality.
Teaching is the hardest thing I have done in my entire life. I love the kids – I even got teacher of the year one year – but I am totally ready to quit. Maybe it is the season? I had a crap day and am lacking judgement right now. Lack of support from administration is a major problem.
I really struggle in this area. I am trying to run a home care for a family and be a teacher. My heart is with my home and family but I am never available to my own children when they need me. I am chronically sleep deprived and on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication. Standard day is getting up at 3 am to do grading of work, housework, laundry, school lunches so we can be out the door by 6.30 I seldom stagger through the door before 5.30. as I have extra lessons with struggling learners, endless meetings with the education department,lesson and test preparation &endless paperwork (I’m so behind I can scarcely breathe thinking about it) to do in afternoons at work. My wonderful parents and parents in law do a great job loving and training my kids in my absence but I miss my family and have nothing left for them by the end of the day. My marriage is suffering. I never thought my life would be like this.
Well put. I don’t work as hard as you. However, I do take anti-anxiety and antidepressants before the teaching day. I have taught for 30 years and the last 12 have been the worst. Unfortunately, it has also cost me my marriage. So very sad.
This is not possible!! Not if you want to do the best by your kids! I am currently grading essays all weekend because my students need them back or feedback isn’t valuable. I love my job but I’m at the point of finding something else! If you think you can do this you are clearly not an English teacher!